The Question that stopped me in my tracks

A quiet moment: coffee, clarity, and the kind of stillness that makes everything make sense.

During the holidays a very close friend asked me a question that stopped me in my tracks:

“What’s your purpose?
If money didn’t matter, what would you be doing?”

It wasn’t meant to shake me… but it did.

It hit me at a time when everyone online is sharing their “2025 wins” like life is this smooth, linear thing. Like we’re all growing on schedule, hitting every milestone, waking up each day inspired and perfectly aligned.

But let’s be honest — that’s not the whole story.

No one posts about crying in the shower.
No one posts about family arguments.
Or friendships that slowly faded away.
Or job uncertainty.
Or heartbreak.
Or health scares, panic attacks, money stress, loneliness, or the quiet pain that never made it online.

We post the highlight reel, not the behind-the-scenes. We post what we want others to see, not our authentic vulnerable selves.

So when my friend asked me about purpose… it felt like a moment to breathe. To pause. To get real.

Because here’s the truth:

You don’t need a “word of the year.”
You don’t need to recap your wins.
You don’t need to reinvent yourself just because the calendar is flipping.

And at the same time, you absolutely can do those things, if it brings you joy & clarity.

But before choosing a word, setting goals, or declaring that January 1st is your big reset…

Ask yourself this instead:

💭 Who do I want to be today?

Not next year.
Not next Monday.
Not when you’re “ready.”

Because becoming doesn’t start on a date.
It starts with a decision.

And if you want to do something for 2026, here’s where I’d begin:

The No-More-Letting-Fear-Decide Question

What would you do this year if you weren’t afraid?

Don’t overthink it.
Don’t try to “fix” it.

Just answer.
Deep down, you already know.

I’ve always believed this:

“Live the way you want to live every day, and you won’t need New Year’s resolutions.”

So maybe the real beginning isn’t on January 1st.
Maybe it’s today.
Maybe it’s the moment you finally tell the truth to yourself.

And maybe that’s where everything actually changes.

Talk soon,

— Lexi